So I’ve been married to my husband for a year now….and I have not met his mom in person….I introduced myself to her via facebook before I proposed to him because I wanted to ask for her blessing (I thought that would be respectful) …I should have gotten the point when she didn’t respond….I didn’t know that her and her son did not really get along and there was alot of unsolved issues from his childhood.
Fast-forward …I have tried to continuously reach out to her so that I can try to mediate to find some median to the situation- I mean- of course I would like to meet his family and enjoy them as my own….but I know have to come to grips that this may never be….it hurts…but what can I do??
I sent her an email in full detail trying to fix the situation via facebook since she won’t return any of my calls…and this is the response I get…somebody please tell me if I am wrong???!!! at this time I told my husband that I don’t want to meet any of his family. I don’t want people to believe that I am befriending other relatives out of spite. I talk to his stepdad who is divorced from his mom and I love him…..he doesn’t get in the middle of he feud, but I am now forced to think about even speaking to him as well….I feel like if I step completely out of the situation there may be a small chance for peace with them all……help!!!!
On June 21, 2012 8:30:20 AM PDT, Erica AndJason Mobley wrote:
Good morning Ms. Tina,
First let me say that I hope that this message find you in good spirits. The reason for my contact today is that I have been made aware (not saying that it is true) that I have been thrown into unnecessary gossip and conversation regarding the issues surrounding you and Jason with your family. I am simply trying to exonerate my name from the foolishness.
Since I first met you via facebook and then ultimately speaking to you one time on the phone I have constantly asked you if there was any specific reason that you do not show particular interest in my….you have stated several times that you have no issues with me. I have never spoken to you with regards to any circumstances involving Jason and his many issues. I have never and will never disrespect you in light of 1.) you are Jason’s mom and 2.) you are my elder…..I have NEVER disrespected an elder in any manner….so please do not attempt to salt my name by saying so.
I have asked my husband repeatedly to contact you and try to make peace because I want nothing more than to see my husband and his mom (my mother-in-law) on good terms. My husband thinks I should mind my business but I try to make peace because I love my family and when I married him I took on his family as well. I carry YOUR last name……so I feel as much apart of the family as my husband is. I thought that is what marriage means.
I called you a couple of days ago and pleaded with you to give me a call back so that we can come together and surprise Jason on our visit with a family cookout to make peace with you, his brother, and so on…….you never returned my call- which I respect that because you do not know me from a can of paint!
Maybe you feel I should mind my business- but a Christian woman I stand to make things right….just the same – when Pam and Latorcia contacted me on facebook I put her right in touch with Jason and PAM asked ME to be the mediator because she did not want to talk to JD…and that is what I did. We had a very good conversation where she thanked me for being the woman I am and Latorcia text me almost everday….so I don’t know how that story got twisted either……..
It is a bunch of foolishness and trying to put all of your other family members in the middle is not making things better. I told JD the same….you both are adults….I got upset about the things he told Aryah…..that was completely unacceptable and childish!!! whether he was joking or not!
I love you, your family, and my step-daughter! My EGO is telling my that I shouldn’t even take this trip to Ohio next weekend because I may be forced to defend myself (by any means) considering the things that MY NAME has been involved in but I don’t mind….I will come there and speak my mind to whoever feels they need an answer from me……life is too short….everybody yelling God this and God that….but then in the same breath everyone is allowing the devil to control their thoughts and actions!!
You and Jason have the power and control to turn all of this nonsense around….I hope that you both sit down and confront your inner demons and lay them on the table…..I am praying for you both to seek God and find the strength to grow in faith and each other by settling your differences amongst each other and leave everyone else’s opinions out of it.
Our last text messages you were as nice to me as you were the day we first spoke on the phone…I don’t know if since then you feel I have done you wrong but let me say this- when you called Jason about Latorcia- I was sitting here when you called me trifling- I didn’t respond because that is not my thing- I am not a hoodrat and I don’t encourage yelling and making threats over the phone…I was more shocked as to why I was put into it….like I told Jason- I felt like you were upset and just said whatever at the time….that’s just how I am…I don’t care about things like that….when he has spoken to you on any other occasion I haven’t even been home….so I don’t know if you feel like I have been in the background talking reckless….sorry that is not in my character. If ever I have wanted to speak to you Ms. Tina I have called you directly.
No when I come there to support my husband I have to look over my shoulder and be prepared for whatever comes my way….all because my character has been tarnished before anyone has ever laid eyes on me. This is certainly not the perception I got from you in the one conversation and many texts/facebook messages that we have sent. I am hoping that there is no truth behind my name being thrown in the mud…but if it is….I am hoping it ends today. I am hoping that you and my husband are adult enough to end this foolishness. I told Jason already…I will not stand and ignite this madness…the world is chaotic, I’ve got my children (including those that are proven to be his) to raise and I don’t expect to expose them to family backstabbing family and fighting when in these times (the end times) we should be all standing together…..people have no idea what the devil has in store for this world…God is tired…..why be apart of the problem when we all can be apart of the solution.
We will be there next weekend. I hope to meet you, Arielle, BJ, Chrystal, Brett, Aunnie, Trey, etc….on good terms….like FAMILY! so when we bring Aryah back I can feel safe to bring my daughters as well…..to meet you all as well as the kids…..
God bless….if you want to speak with me directly I can be reached at (202) xxx-xxxx
On June 21, 2012 10:01:38 PM PDT, Tina XXXX XXXXX wrote:
Im not sure where you get off sending me messages like this! It’s very disrespectful!..God first of all is not involved in mess and confusion!..i’m not concerned about what’s going on in you nor Jason’s life its your business! He closed those doors when he said what he did about me to my granddaughter! It hurt her dearly…Defendi him if you must! But don’t threaten me by any means necessary, where do you get off saying that! Dont send me this mess anymore. What I need to say to you or your husband I can say face to face! Keep God out of this!
On June 21, 2012 10:03:51 PM PDT, Tina XXXX XXXXXy wrote:
Life!..He closed those doors! And then hurt my granddaughter by what he said!
On June 21, 2012 10:08:20 PM PDT, Tina XXXX XXXXX wrote:
By any means necessary you say… I take that as a threat! I don’t have time for this nonsense…dont send me this mess anymore! I am 50 years old not 15! Keep God out of this.
On June 22, 2012 3:53:04 AM PDT, Erica AndJason Mobley wrote:
How did you take my words offensive? Wow. I poured out my soul to you yes using God because he is the source of my strength. Trying to do what I can to mend this and the devil has allowed you to turn my words completely upside down. I will continue to pray for you. This is the last response I expected. I apologize for attempting to reach out to you. God is in everything, please remember that. Hopefully during your quiet time you pray for the hatred in your heart. Jason as well. I thought you would receive my words in love but I guess not. I will honor your request to never contact you again.