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Christian singers…..celebrity pulpit

Christian singers.....celebrity pulpit

Speaking of Shackles off my feet….what in the world happened to America’s leading ladies in Christ Mary Mary?? To be completely honest I knew something was wrong when I used to be a club goer and The

God In Me echoed through the booming systems into the drunken hearts of the crowd….I believe (being a Christian at heart) I was one of the 2 or 3 people that sobered up quickly, fixed my attire, and eased into a corner to explain to my sober mind how I ended up in this worldly massacre myself.

Does anyone else see rage in the fact that they are now in the eyes of American Idols** – which according to God is not pleasing in His eyesight?? The once beautiful spirit and humble tone that poured from these women were once something I praised. Something I loved and admired from these black women.

What took the cake is when they performed at~ I guess an awards show (I don’t watch TV so excuse me if I get the actual premiere misstated) nonetheless, they perform with LL Cool J who comes out and asks if he can take the crowd to “church”….I mean really?

I don’t know about anyone else but it bothers me even when rappers play with God’s name in songs…it’s called mockery and I don’t think people truly understand that God isn’t just some homeboy you can go around joking with.

Anyway, I would love to know others opinions on Christian singers in a celebrity pulpit……

Spiritual Growth….easier said than done……

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Spiritual growth is not easy (in the beginning) a lot of sleepless nights, cold sweats and migraines. A lot of confronting your past mistakes and current flaws. Stripping your ego down to completely expose yourself and all your sinful ways. It is a journey (especially when the world around you is not ready – so they laugh, judge, ridicule you for choosing to grow beyond them….without them) Either your circle is very small or you are forced to feel alone. It’s not about religion…it’s not about church….for these things attached to your renewed spirit can make you greater……but they are NOTHING if your spirit is not in-tact……I was once told that faith without works is dead….but I also learned that activity is not always productivity……so I ask right back…..what is a bunch of works (in the church) without the spirit of Christ in everything you do? These are not rhetorical questions….I hope someone feels like speaking today :)….I’m trying to give you something to think about! What is giving thanks and praises when you can’t manage to sacrifice to do His will? That is like saying Thank you!….and then spitting on the person you just thanked…….(with a smile)….People will go out here and work,work,work,work,work…gotta pay these bills, gotta feed these kids, gotta get this outfit for my next event…..what about your eternal seat in heaven? My husband and I started a business that has made our living very, very comfortable in a short period of time…..but what is all of that working for….to pay a bill….to pay a car note?…meanwhile…the kids are getting older, we don’t even know their favorite colors, or shoes size….I mean sure we take them out for fun and dinner and shopping….but what does that do for them when they were given to us to enjoy our temporary assignment here on earth….and  when we don’t know when any of us will be called home (so there are no emotional memories left behind with those who matters most……… What are we sacrificing for our final reward…our eternal reward…and what really matters?…….time for a different strategy to live……..

bad b*tch vs beautiful woman debate

bad b*tch vs beautiful woman debate

Here we are again with another one of my “I just don’t get it” rants.

I can remember a time when a working, brilliant, confident, humble woman would earn the stares and compliments of any man in a room. When the most beautiful attribute of a woman was humility and silence……back when I was about 5 or 6 yrs old, I would sit and watch my mom. How everything was “for grown-ups” so I was forced to go into another room for what seemed like every dang-on thing! When red was…”street walker clothes”…makeup was unheard of….and speaking to your children was never above a whisper….because they knew what the “look” meant…especially the front row in church when you’re talking during the preaching (lol) Mom’s led by example….and to mix children with grown-up situations was not even an option….

I remember when men held doors, pulled out chairs, held you at the base of the lower back to shelter you from imagined possible harm. I remember when men wanted to take their time in getting to know you…because it was just as important to get to know what you were about just as well as you getting to know him….when he had to be sure you were “the one” before he took you home to meet his momma.

Where has time gone? When did g-strings getting lost in botoxed booty become a new symbol of sexy? Why is a size 6 the “perfect” size. Why does a compliment consist of physical or material interest?….As I research different cultures and history it somehow intensifies my anger. How do you control a humbled heart when ignorance is at every corner, on every reality tv show (which is why I stopped watching 3 years ago)….

Can we reverse what “man” has turned into the ultimate humiliation of one’s race? Is it that we ALL have to feel accepted by which has been subliminally etched into our brains through media,news,tv,radio,etc…..

I’ve known men to father children by the very woman they now consider less attractive…the very woman that has the marks and scars of childbirth. The most unselfish, sacred, gift known to mankind….the gift of life…..as God gave to us all.

Since when did stripper poles and dildos signify an award to remarkable beauty….when attached to a nice cup size, a perfect booty, and can’t forget the 6inch heels……

I cry…for the sake of my daughters who will (in the next couple of years) will be someone’s eye-candy-not because she want to-but because she is naturally beautiful and naive to the dangers of this world……I cry for my only son who already has this perception of a fat ass and perfect breasts being the basis of his bad b*tch argument (based on that which he has been accustomed to)…Although, I live to be a model of what a beautiful woman is and should be…..society has and continues to push those few of us ‘sane’ people left into a corner of non-existence.

I hope this reaches the next person….be it grandfather, father, son, brother, etc…..to rethink what you would consider beautiful …beautiful in the light in which God intended His daughters to be…….respect those women that don’t necessarily demand respect. Make a difference by changing your views. Changing your thoughts will ultimately change your life…..changing your life will begin a paradigm affect in the lives of others…….

That which you put into the universe will always find its way home…sitting on your own doorstep…..

Much love,

Defyne

Deadbeat debate…….dads vs. moms

Deadbeat debate.......dads vs. moms

Okay, so I guess current personal circumstances has me feeling some kinda way.

According to Webster’s dictionary a victim is one who is tricked, swindled or taken advantage of.

Maybe, it’s just me, but I have always been the type who owns up to my participation in a decision gone wrong. It’s upsetting to me how our men are torn down for not living up to their full parental potential- because so many men that would at least try are thrown under the bus before he has a chance to make a proper decision on his own.

A lot of times I sit back and I listen to women gripe about the $$$$$, and in other instances I hear they get child support…”BUT I AIN’T LETTING MY CHILD GO OVER THERE!!”….and somewhere, somebody is calling him a dead beat dad!

Something has got to give, mom’s are taking full advantage of a society and government that is allowing them to cry VICTIM!

So before I continue my rant, I ask??

1.) Doesn’t making the conscious decision to lay up with someone that you barely know, or know to be unstable make you just as unfit as the person you laid with?

2.) Doesn’t  abortions make you unfit in a situation whereby you ALSO created life and refused to own up to your parental responsibility?

3.) Doesn’t dangling a child to get what you want on your terms consider you an unfit parent?

4.) Doesn’t only answering the phone when you feel you want to be contacted consider you unfit?

5.) If all you want out of the father of your child is money, but no concern for the physical aspect of parenting…doesn’t that make you down right inexcusably trifling?

Here is the kicker!

So my husband has two woman pouring false claim of him being a deadbeat dad. We have decided to a.) file for a paternity test b.) OFFER to pay child support and c.) ask for joint custody rights.

When proposed to one of the moms ( who has repeatedly said his daughter cannot come here to visit us)- burst into tears upset and doesn’t want us to go through with it. The other mom (who just appeared a month ago after a 13yr disappearance) said that she doesn’t want it to go through the courts either……

Now….what kind of games are we playing here?? Guess what, my husband is fighting back! We ARE going through the courts and we are going to pursue ALL rights to  the parenthood that we are claimed to be running from.

I hope this post encourage our father’s to STAND UP and unsalt your name by fighting for your own rights! If enough of you get tired of being tired your voices will be heard and you no longer have to play the “moms” game to have peace of mind or hold on to a little sanity…..

You’ve got our blessing!!!

Much Love,

~Defyne~